“Death is the only wise adviser that we have. Whenever you feel, as you always do, that everything is going wrong and you’re about to be annihilated, turn to your death and ask if that is so. Your death will tell you that you’re wrong; that nothing really matters outside its touch. Your death will tell you, ‘I haven’t touched you yet.'” ~ Carlos Castaneda, Journey to Ixtlan
I have been thinking of physical life as a stage in the process of our evolution, and seeing the end of our physical existence simply as a moment of transition to another educational campus. I imagine someone coming to me, when the moment approaches, and saying, “OK. Enough. You have learned the lessons you needed to learn and taught the lessons you were brought here to teach. There’s no need for you to stay here anymore. It is time for you to leave this dimension and go the the next one.”
I like to think that physical death is just another moment of transition on this evolutionary journey. It is not that we reach the end of our journey when we die; it simply continues in another dimension.
I can understand people feeling sad when a loved one dies. There is sadness in all separations. But this sadness, perhaps, is just because that person will not be around — at least not physically — and we won’t be able to enjoy their presence any longer. I can also understand the anxiety, fear, and the sense of insecurity one feels with the loss of a family member, for instance: many new challenges will arise for which those who remained may feel unprepared or incapable of dealing with. But in the end, everything will be OK, right? As the saying goes, “If it is not OK, it’s not the end.”
Many times people say that the person died too soon, that he or she had so much to live and give still, that his or her life was cut short, that now, after all the hard work and sacrifice he or she endured, was the time to enjoy life … But all these statements come from the assumption that the person would be happier staying here than where he or she is right now. What about embracing the idea that there is no better place than the one we go to after our physical deaths? What about rejoicing and celebrating the good fortune of the deceased?
What comes to my mind is the idea that babies are reluctant to leave the wombs of their mothers. They are comfortable where they are, so when the time of birth arrives, they protest and cry. They want to stay with the known because they fear the unknown. I can draw a parallel with the moment of physical death. We got accustomed with our lives and we don’t want to die. Just like the babies, we don’t want to leave the known to venture in the unknown. But who says that what we will experience is not immensely better?
We all die, right? Impermanence of everything is the rule, right? So, we must accept death with equanimity.
For me, the problem is not that that I talk a lot about death; the problem is that we don’t talk about it enough.
So I would like you to know that I am happy, content and satisfied with my life, and thrilled with what lies ahead, both in this life and the next. I have had, and continue to have a rich life, full of great experiences and relationships. I am highly blessed and experience great abundance. I am able to see magic, mystery and miracles all around me. I feel blessed because I have learned to notice beauty: the beautiful sunrise, the scents in the air, the dance of the leaves in the soothing breeze. I am grateful for the life I have, and the people I share it with, especially my wife and sons. I am able to do what I like, and although I feel that I haven’t finished giving my contribution yet, I feel that I am leaving the world a little better than I found it, not only through what I have done, but also through everything my sons have done and will do. I am proud of my accomplishments. I have no regrets. I am at peace.
I invite you to read the excellent book Sunset Stories: Lessons from the Dying for the Living by Paul Veliyathil, and these two blogs:
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