Fear When Happiness Arrives

It’s not uncommon for fear to arise when things are just fine. Yes, everything is OK, everything is perfect, but we are not tranquil: inside us there is this disturbing fear that something bad is about to happen.

Flavio Gikovate, a Brazilian psychotherapist and scholar, lectured extensively on the irrational fear felt by many that when everything is well, or when everything is about to be well, a tragedy will strike. Many people are unaware that they may be afraid of achieving their dreams, having success, and experiencing happy moments, because they are already anticipating the pain they will experience in the event they lose all that.

Have you ever noticed the sneaky fear that arises when we are about to reach our goals, or when we have reached them and are experiencing success and happiness? Dr. Gikovate alerted us that due to this fear many times we sabotage ourselves and bring our projects to failure, a dangerous tendency that becomes more present as we get closer to reaching our goals.

It’s not uncommon, when things are going well, for our brains to focus on the negative rather than the positive. And we have to understand that the brain’s tendency to pay more attention to what is negative is natural; it’s just the way our brains work and have worked throughout the ages to protect us, humans, from danger.

But the good news is that our brains are trainable.

Yes. Our brains are trainable!

We can, through deliberate mindfulness practice, increase our ability to be aware of those times when fear is not called for. We can also train ourselves to increase our ability to notice the good and take it in, what has the power to tame fear.

I created an acronym to make this practice easier to remember: NASA. Not the National Air and Space Administration of the space programs and astronauts. I’m talking about the initials of four words: Notice, Appreciate, Savor, and Absorb. NASA. The more I pause to notice, appreciate, savor, and absorb the good things in my life, the more gratitude becomes my brain’s default operating mode. I become more focused on gratitude than fear. I focus on the abundance of the Universe and marvel at it. I am more optimistic and less pessimistic. I focus on how blessed I am, how blessed we all are, and feel content, satisfied, and happy.

N.A.S.A. I invite you to give it a try.


 

Piero Falci is an author and educator who believes that the inner work that leads to personal awakening and transformation is indispensable to create a wholesome world. He is an explorer of the mysteries of life who loves to observe, reflect and write, and who not only aspires to live a life that matters, but also hopes to inspire others to do the same. He is a promoter of peace who believes in advancing the idea that Heaven is here if we want it to be. He teaches Mindfulness Meditation and Mindful Living, and the acclaimed Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) program as taught at the Center for Mindfulness in Medicine, Healthcare, and Society of the University of Massachusetts Medical School. He leads mindfulness silent retreats and organizes Silent Peace Walks. He lives in Florida, USA. Join his Mindfulness Meditation and Mindfulness Living sessions at Yoga Source in Coral Springs (Sundays at 9:00 AM) and at Shiwa Yoga in Deerfield Beach (Tuesdays and Thursdays at 6:30 AM)


 

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