Reinventing Yourself

We know everything that there is to know about ourselves, right? And we are constantly telling everyone, including our own selves, “I am like this. This is the way I am. This is the way I’ve always been. I can’t change, and I never will. It’s too late for me to change now.”

But what about throwing all these certainties away, and assuming a posture of not knowing who we are? What about activating and using the “I-don’t-know mind” in place of the “I-know-it-all mind?” What about dropping those old labels and repetitious, victimizing, self-defeating stories that we keep telling ourselves about ourselves? What about considering for a moment that we are not who we think we are? What about using a “beginner’s mind,” not an “expert’s mind,” letting go of all that we think we know, remaining open to explore with curiosity who we really are and also who we are not, and perhaps, with surprise, discovering ourselves anew?

 

Who you were does not need to define who you are, and who you are does not need to define who you will be. This is a new day. This is a new moment. This is a new you. The you that is here now is not the same who was here yesterday, or a moment ago.

You are free.

You don’t need to keep seeing as you have always seen. You don’t have to keep believing as you have always believed. You don’t need to keep reacting as you have always reacted. You don’t need to keep telling yourself the same anguish-producing stories you have always told. You don’t need to live with the same demeaning labels others have given you and that you have mindlessly accepted.

Enough!

If the current labels, identities, self-definitions, and stories you have been retelling do not serve you anymore, abandon them. Drop the unnecessary load you have been carrying and embrace who you are today. Embrace yourself in the present moment with spaciousness, lightness, and freshness. Where you were is not as important as where you are, and where you are heading to.

Look with new eyes and see the new in the old; see new possibilities for yourself. If necessary, invent new stories about yourself, stories of victory, and let go of the stories of your wounds. Get new narratives, better ones, ones that enhance your health, well-being, and the overall quality of your life. You are free to do so. You are free to reinvent yourself at any moment. Go ahead and do it. Just do it!

 

 

The Optimist Creed

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“An unexamined life is not worth living.”

“We must consciously unlearn what we have unconsciously learned.”

“When we change the way we look at things, the things we look at change.”

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Piero Falci is an author and educator who believes that the inner work that leads to personal awakening and transformation is indispensable to create a wholesome world. He is an explorer of the mysteries of life who loves to observe, reflect and write, and who not only aspires to live a life that matters, but also hopes to inspire others to do the same. He is a promoter of peace who believes in advancing the idea that Heaven is here if we want it to be. He teaches Mindfulness Meditation and Mindful Living, and the acclaimed Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) program as taught at the Center for Mindfulness in Medicine, Healthcare, and Society of the University of Massachusetts Medical School. He leads mindfulness silent retreats and organizes Silent Peace Walks. He lives in Florida, USA. Join his Mindfulness Meditation and Mindfulness Living sessions at Yoga Source in Coral Springs (Sundays at 9:00 AM) and at Shiwa Yoga in Deerfield Beach (Tuesdays and Thursdays at 6:30 AM)


 

Take a look at these books at the Peaceful Ways online store

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– “Peaceful Ways – The Power of Making Your Wishes Come True”

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– “Pay Attention! Be Alert! Discovering Your Route to Happiness”

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– “Silent Peace Walk”

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Wishing You a Life of Ease

This morning, while watching the sunrise at the beach, my friend reflected at the current state of humanity and said, “We are all exhausted, aren’t we?” Immediately, as if stricken by a lightning of verity, I effusively agreed, “Yes! Isn’t that true? Aren’t we all exhausted? Yes, definitely: we are all exhausted indeed!”

When I think about our society and the way we live, I fantasize that we have been hypnotized and conditioned to believe that we are not OK, and that in order to be OK we have to have more. The voices of our culture are constantly telling us, “You don’t have enough. You don’t do enough. You aren’t good enough.” It seems that we are always doing more in order to have more and be more. Our egos are constantly telling us that we are what we have, what we do, and what others think of us. So we engage in this perpetual laboring in order to accumulate possessions and achievements and build up big reputations for ourselves. Think about it: isn’t that so?

Let’s pause for a moment and think: Isn’t this mindless pursuit of Positions of Power, in order to retain Prestige that will grant Privileges and Preference, and make the accumulation of Possessions easier — the Perilous P’s, as I call them — exhausting? And is this chase worth all the sacrifice? Will these things ever bring us enduring happiness? We know the answers, right? So why do we continue chasing things out there when we already know that all that will bring us lasting satisfaction is already here, with us, around us, within us?

Rest is the title I gave to the first chapter of Peaceful Ways, a book I wrote some years ago. It opens with this quote of Jesus: “Come to me all of you who are exhausted, and I will give you rest.” In that chapter, I urge the readers to exercise self-compassion, be gentle and kind with themselves, and give themselves permission to do nothing, just rest.

The questions that arise are:

  • Is it possible, in this society of ours, to do less, or remain idle doing nothing at all, and not feel guilty for not being constantly active and productive? and,
  • Is it possible that by doing less we may end up having more of the things that are truly satisfying and therefore be happier?

It is stated in the Tao-te-Ching that the Great Tao – the Universal Life Force Energy — does nothing and yet leaves nothing undone.

What about considering, and perhaps coming to the realization that actually we are not doing anything; we are just being done?

What about, perhaps just for today, taking time off and giving ourselves the gift of rest?

What about simply living with ease, flowing with the natural flow of life, calmly accepting whatever may come, enjoying what is pleasant without clinging, and being with the unpleasant without aversion?

What about, perhaps just for today, letting the Universe fight our battles for us?

What about taking time in silence and solitude to look at ourselves, express gratitude, and just be?

Enough is the magic word. Enough. We do enough. We have enough. We are enough. We have nothing else to do and nowhere else to go. We have arrived already. We are here. And we can rest now.

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Piero Falci is an author and educator who believes that the inner work that leads to personal awakening and transformation is indispensable to create a wholesome world. He is an explorer of the mysteries of life who loves to observe, reflect, and write, and who not only strives to live a life that matters, but also hopes to inspire others to do the same. He is a promoter of peace who believes in advancing the idea that Heaven is here if we want it to be. He teaches mindfulness meditation, mindful living, and the acclaimed Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) program as taught at the Center for Mindfulness in Medicine, Healthcare, and Society of the University of Massachusetts Medical School. He organizes Silent Peace Walks.


 

Take a look at these books at the Peaceful Ways online store

http://peacefulways.org/store/

Book Cover Image

– “Peaceful Ways – The Power of Making Your Wishes Come True”

Pay Attention Book Cover

– “Pay Attention! Be Alert! Discovering Your Route to Happiness”

Silent_Peace_Walk_Cover_for_Kindle

– “Silent Peace Walk”

www.PieroFalci.com

 

Free The Child

Liberate the little kid in you, and give this child permission to play, have fun, and enjoy life.

Jump up and down, ride a bike, catch a wave, play an instrument, swim, run, dance, draw, paint, do whatever makes you happy, and no matter what you do, do it with a smile on your face, always. And if you can’t do those things you enjoy perfectly, do them imperfectly; just do them anyway.

Watch the sunrise, the sunset, or a blade of grass dancing with the breeze. Look up to see the clouds in the sky, and then look down to see their reflections on the pond. Let yourself be showered by the beauty of this world. Let yourself be transported by the magic, mystery, and miracles of this life. Notice the impermanence of everything, and give yourself permission to do nothing, just rest and relax.

And every now and then, without caring the least about what others may think, give free rein to your basic instincts, free the child in you, and allow yourself to howl like a wolf, wildly and carefree, at the splendors of the Universe.

Be content, satisfied, and grateful for this life. Be optimistic and hopeful. Be gentle with yourself. Be happy. And shower others with all this good that is in you.

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Piero Falci is an author and educator who believes that the inner work that leads to personal awakening and transformation is indispensable to create a wholesome world. He is an explorer of the mysteries of life who loves to observe, reflect, and write, and who not only strives to live a life that matters, but also hopes to inspire others to do the same. He is a promoter of peace who believes in advancing the idea that Heaven is here if we want it to be. He teaches mindfulness meditation, mindful living, and the acclaimed Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) program as taught at the Center for Mindfulness in Medicine, Healthcare, and Society of the University of Massachusetts Medical School. He organizes Silent Peace Walks.


 

Take a look at these books at the Peaceful Ways online store

http://peacefulways.org/store/

Book Cover Image

– “Peaceful Ways – The Power of Making Your Wishes Come True”

Pay Attention Book Cover

– “Pay Attention! Be Alert! Discovering Your Route to Happiness”

Silent_Peace_Walk_Cover_for_Kindle

– “Silent Peace Walk”

www.PieroFalci.com