At the beginning of his years of teaching, Siddhartha Gautama faced a lot of criticism from those who would not agree with what he had to say. Seeing what he was going through, his disciples approached him and asked, “How can you be so calm and peaceful when people find fault in your words and ridicule you?” The Buddha answered with a question: “When someone offers you a gift and you don’t accept it, to whom does the gift belong to?”
We have to decide: Shall we accept the gift, or not? The decision is ours. And the right decision will liberate us.
Know that you will never get everyone’s approval, and that there will always be people who do not agree with you. Seeking external approval is a sure way to unhappiness. What other people think of you should never be as important as what you think of yourself, so make sure to value more how you see yourself than the opinions others have of you.
You can’t expect that everybody will understand and agree with you. You can’t expect that everybody will be gentle and kind with you. You can’t expect that everybody will love you. That’s unrealistic.
You can’t control how others will interpret what you say and do. All you can control is the purity of your intentions. Negative reactions to your words and actions should not matter if you are at peace, and able to honestly and calmly say to yourself, “My intentions are pure.”
It is not realistic to believe that you have never wounded some people during your lifetime. We all did. We all had those selfish and mindless moments that some of us, later, came to regret. No one is totally perfect and completely innocent. Accept that you have hurt others, and that some people do not like you.
Go to the center of your being, to that place of silence and stillness, and investigate what has moved and moves you. Now, forgive yourself, once and for all. Leave that weight of guilt and recrimination by the roadside and don’t get back to it ever again.
May you be able to say to yourself, “I know who I am. I know the ground where I stand. I know that my intentions are pure. I am at peace. I am firm in my intent to be good, do good, and help other people as much as I can, for as long as I can. I am firm in my intent of not inflicting anyone any harm.”
May you be able to have compassion for, and send waves of love to all of those who criticize, attack, and dislike you. May you be able to forgive all, including yourself, for all unwholesome words and actions, and move on. May you be able to constantly express great gratitude for all the blessings that have been bestowed upon you.
And if you are a teacher, decide to be the guide on the side, not the sage on the stage. Be present, sensitive, and flexible. Get your ego out of the way, and don’t try to control everything. Yes, plan your classes, but remain open to change. Be attentive to what is called for in the moment, being at peace if it happens that you have to throw away all your well-crafted plans and do something completely different. Trust the intelligence that arises from the group in each moment. Remain open, be a conduit, and allow the intelligence of the Universe to flow through you.
“At the end of the day, I’m at peace because my intentions are good and my heart is pure.”
Peace be with you.
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Piero Falci is an author and educator who believes that the inner work that leads to personal awakening and transformation is indispensable to create a wholesome world. He is an explorer of the mysteries of life who hopes to inspire people to live lives that matter. He is a promoter of peace who believes that Heaven is here, if we want it to be. He teaches mindfulness meditation and mindful living, and organizes Silent Peace Walks.