Unfortunately, it seems that the majority of us are not capable of listening attentively, analyzing dispassionately, thinking rationally, and acting logically. It seems that we don’t take the time to choose the best responses. What we do is to react to the events in our lives too fast, often with emotionally-charged, unbalanced, and violent reactions.
It’s time for us to invested massively in teaching how to expand and take control of the gap between stimuli and responses, and how to use this space-time in order to listen, connect, understand other people’s feelings and needs, analyze, and choose the best responses. It’s time for us to invested massively in teaching nonviolent communication and nonviolent conflict resolution.
Although education and training in nonviolent techniques is gaining ground, we still have a long way to go. We need to expand our reach and coverage so every human being can receive training on how to communicate properly and solve conflicts nonviolently. We must keep promoting nonviolence and its advantages, creating conditions for people to realize that violence is destructive, while nonviolence is constructive and creative. We have to remind ourselves that those who resort to violence to solve conflicts seek to defeat, subjugate and segregate their opponents, invariably creating new enemies in the process, while those who adopt nonviolent means for conflict resolution don’t see opponents as enemies to be defeated, but fellow human beings who need to be heard and understood, human beings who, in the final analysis, want the same things they want. Nonviolent practitioners seek to listen deeply, feel compassionately, communicate respectfully, and invite others to jointly come up with creative solutions that dispel tensions, bring parties together, and make all those involved feel that a fair agreement can be reached.
Let us invest in teaching less violent ways of relating with one another.
Wouldn’t it be wonderful if all children were exposed to the practice of Mindfulness, Restorative Justice, Nonviolent Communication and Nonviolent Conflict Resolution early in their lives? Wouldn’t it be wonderful is they took those techniques to their homes and communities, and not only applied them, but also taught them to others? Wouldn’t it be wonderful if schools all over the planet taught programs that enhanced empathy and compassion, taught more cooperation and less competition, and taught children that we all should work to end violence through the attainment of social justice and peace?
So, let us continue our efforts. Let us teach the new generations that everyone’s highest moral calling must be to put an end to the systemic, indirect violence. Let’s work to put an end to oppression and exploitation. Let us continue pushing for our history books to reduce references to armed conflicts, and give more relevance to those events when social advancements were accomplished through nonviolent resistance and civil disobedience. Let us raise humanity’s understanding that those who fought injustices and attained social progress through nonviolent means deserve more praise than violent warriors.
Let us teach mindfulness, introspection, meditation, concentration, and all those gentle techniques that allow people to find answers to the most essential questions within themselves. Let us develop a great love for the silence, and demonstrate the advantages of cultivating it. Let us practice and teach how to properly listen to one another, understanding each other’s needs, and exploring creative ways of having those needs met. Let us make a concentrated effort on education, teaching what is really important, what really needs to be taught. Finally, let us understand once and for all that nothing in the world can make us feel better than contributing to the well-being of others.
Let us remember that if we want to leave a better world for our children, we must leave better children for the world.
The world needs nonviolence. Humanity needs nonviolence. Every person needs to learn nonviolence.
“He who opens a school door, closes a prison.” ~ Victor Hugo
Piero Falci is an author and educator who believes that the inner work that leads to personal awakening and transformation is indispensable to create a wholesome world. He is an explorer of the mysteries of life who loves to observe, reflect and write, and who not only aspires to live a life that matters, but also hopes to inspire others to do the same. He is a promoter of peace who believes in advancing the idea that Heaven is here if we want it to be.
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