Darling, I am here for you.
Darling, I know you are there and it makes me happy.
Darling, I know you suffer.
Darling, I suffer, please help.
This is a Happy Moment.
Darling, you are partly right.
~ Thich Nhat Hanh
The first mantra is, “Darling, I am here for you.” — When you love someone, the best thing you can offer him or her is your presence. How can you love if you are not there? And you look into his eyes and you say, “Darling, you know something? I’m here for you.” You offer him or her your presence, and your true presence. You are not preoccupied with the past or the future, or your project. You are there for your beloved one.
The second mantra is, “Darling, I know you are there and it makes me happy. I am so happy because you are truly there.” You recognize the presence of your beloved one as something very precious. And you use your mindfulness to recognize that. Embrace your beloved one with mindfulness, and she will bloom like a flower. To be loved means to be recognized as existing.
These two mantras can bring happiness right away, even if your beloved one is not there.
The third mantra is what you practice when your beloved one suffers. “Darling, I know you suffer, that is why I am here for you.” Before you do something to help her, to help him, your presence already can bring some relief.
And the fourth mantra is a little bit more difficult. That is when you suffer, and you believe that your suffering has been caused by your beloved one. So you suffer so deeply, and you prefer to go to your room, and close the door, and suffer alone. You get hurt, and you want to punish him or her for having made you suffer. And the mantra is to overcome that. The mantra is, “Darling, I suffer. I am trying my best to practice. Please, help me.” You go to him, you go to her, and practice that. And if you can bring yourself to say that mantra, you suffer less right away.
~ Thich Nhat Hanh
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