You see, many of us wake up in the morning with the alarm clock and we spend our entire days in a state of alarm. We don’t relax a single moment. We get up, get dressed and get going. We wake up in the morning telling ourselves, “I have to do this and I have to do that.” We create those long and unrealistic to-do lists, with too many things to do and not enough time to do them. Then we go through our days rushing and running, collecting all the scattered pieces and trying to put them together. We go through our days thinking about what we have to do next instead of concentrating on what we have in front of us, be it the work at hand, or the person we may be with. Most of the time, we are not here, now; our minds are elsewhere and elsewhen. We are not enjoying the present.
And as it invariably happens, unexpected things pop up, and there goes the plan we had for the day. When this happens, we immediately tense up. Instead of giving thanks for the unexpected, and accepting what the Forces of the Universe have brought to us, we react against them. We don’t surrender and look for the good in the unexpected. As we don’t look, we don’t find joy. We don’t go with the flow; we swim against it. As a result, irritation, impatience, frustration, anger and anxiety become our companions for the day. And at the end of the day, when we review our to-do list, we tell ourselves, “I have not done this. I have not done that. I should have done this. I could have done that. I am not good enough. I am worthless.” We go to bed feeling tired, guilty and defeated.
Is this your life? What kind of life is this? Why are you going to go through life feeling this way: tired, guilty and defeated? Can’t you see that we are the ones imposing too many demands on our own selves? Can’t you see that we are the ones creating our own stress, the biggest killer of all?
Yes, we begin our days with our plans, and we may end up doing something completely different. I am here to tell you that this is OK. The Spirit leads us to do what the Spirit wants us to do. We have to accept. We have to surrender. We have to relax. We have to breathe deeply, reconvene, recollect, and be gentle with ourselves. We have to find joy in what was brought to us. At the end of the day, instead of focusing on what we have not done and feeling guilty and defeated, we shall focus on the much that we have accomplished and feel victorious.
How can we do this?
I suggest you use the reframing technique. Reframe your thoughts and emotions. Rewrite the script. Instead of telling a negative story, tell a positive one. Focus on all the positive facts and aspects of the day and tell a tale of victory. “I had a fantastic day, full of unexpected occurrences and new opportunities. I took action and I am moving closer to my goals. I gave a great contribution to the world today!” No more negative stories. No more shouldas, couldas, and guilty feelings. “It was a glorious day. I am grateful. And I am moving on; the past is gone.”
We must learn to surrender and let the Universe take care of the details. We must learn to let go and let God. One good practice is to read this note every morning: “Good morning. This is God. I will be handling all your problems and concerns today. I will not require your help. So relax and enjoy the day. Have fun. I love you. God.”
I am sure got it, didn’t you?
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