“Just for today, I will not get angry.” This is the third of five Reiki Principles.
Pause for an instant and ask yourself, “What is anger? When does it come about? Why?”
Anger is an emotion that surfaces whenever someone disappoints us. We get angry at other individuals because they do not do what we want them to do, or do not behave the way we want them to behave, or do not believe in what we believe.
We also get angry whenever we disappoint ourselves. When we regret what we have done or said, or what we have failed to say or do, we get angry. But disproportionate auto-criticism must be avoided. We should always be gentle with ourselves, forgiving ourselves for our temporary failings and misdeeds. We should love ourselves as we are. But we also must be commited to learn from our mistakes in order not repeat them. We should love ourselves and continue the lifelong journey of bettering our own selves.
I admire all of those who make the effort to better themselves. I am thankful to them because their efforts to be better make my world better.
One of the things we should do is to observe if we are in a constant and recurring criticizing mode. If so, we should change our ways. Criticism is a big waste of time and energy. If our focus is always on what others do wrong, we become very judgmental and bitter. Spending our days criticizing others diminishes the quality of our lives. We should resist speaking negatively about anyone. Whenever we catch ourselves about to engage in criticism, we must stop. And since the way of stopping bad behaviors is by replacing it with good ones, I submit that we should use that time to improve ourselves, in order to become the kind of individuals we respect and admire.
In my workshops I always ask the participants, “When was the last time you were able to change someone?” After some deliberation we all agree that we actually do not change anyone; all we can do is to inspire in others the desire to change, because change is a very personal undertaking. The best we can do is to improve our own selves, so we become examples that inspire others to do the same.
Finally, to live this precept to the fullest, one should make a commitment to not have any bad feelings toward anyone.
So, pause, take a deep breath, and promise yourself that “Just for today, I will not get angry, I will not envy, I will not be jealous, I will not hate, I will not judge, I will not criticize, I will not disapprove, I will not condemn. Just for today, I will not express any bad feelings toward anyone. I will not hurt anyone, myself included. I will be a loving, giving, and forgiving individual. I will be kind, generous and patient. I will work in becoming an improved version of myself and a blessing to the world.”
Christian Larson, in his Optimist Creed, wrote, “Promise yourself to give so much time to improving yourself that you have no time to criticize others.” Now that’s a good advice, for sure! Embrace it!
Go forth in peace and joy!