My Happy Life Formula, Again

Life is short. In order to live the best life you can live, I invite you to, everyday, make a conscious choice to be happy and do the following:

1 – Promise yourself that you will be happy. Promise that you will accept, approve and love yourself. Promise that you will always make the healthy choice. Promise that you will take good care of yourself, and put your wellbeing first. Promise that you will protect yourself and never do anything that would harm you. Promise that you will learn to love yourself and be kind to yourself, knowing that this will enhance the source of the kindness and love from where you will be able to generously give to others. Promise that you will be a blessing to the world by making others happy almost effortlessly because you are already happy. Promise that everyday you will do what you know you need to do to have a great day, and by having a series of great days you will have a great, happy life!

2 – Practice gratitude. Don’t focus on what you don’t have, but give thanks for what you already have.

3 – Practice mindfulness. Be here, now. Enjoy the silence. Meditate. Observe. Look at the big and the small. Be aware of the wonders surrounding you. Pay attention. Be alert. Look for beauty and goodness, and see beauty, goodness, and miracles all around you. Allow yourself to be amazed. Be in connection, communication and communion with the Divine all moments of your life. Realize that this planet, all of it, wherever you may be, is holy ground. The whole Universe is our sanctuary. Live as if you are in Heaven already.

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4 – Practice acceptance. It is what it is. Stop feeling frustrated, disappointed, mad and sad because the world is not the way you think it should be, or others are not the way you wanted them to be, or your life is not what you dreamt it to be. The world is the way it is, others are the way they are, and you are the way you are because we are here, all of us, to learn and to teach. You are living the experiences that you are supposed to live in order to learn the lessons you are supposed to learn, and teach the lessons you are supposed to teach. Others are also living the experiences they are supposed to live, and whatever they may be going through also creates opportunities for you to learn and to teach. So, learn and teach. Accept what is while being fully cognizant that all is changing all the time, and that you have the power to create.

5 – Be aware of change and believe in its power. Learn that you have the tremendous power to choose empowering thoughts and control your destiny. Embrace the life you already have as a point of departure to an even better life. Live the best life you can live by choosing powerful thoughts. If you don’t like the life you are living, change it. Change your thoughts, and start all over again.

6 – Practice non-criticism. Break the habit of comparing yourself with others. Stop focusing on the negative aspects of someone else’s life. Stop criticizing. Don’t waste your time with those things. As much as possible, accept others as they are. Develop an understanding that they are on their own journeys as you are on yours. Accept the fact that everyone has his own story, and everyone has positive and negative attributes. Focus on the positive. Look for the good in others. Look for those things in them that are worth of praise and bring a smile to your face. Be compassionate, not judgmental. If you don’t have anything positive to say, don’t say anything. Try to help them, but remember that you can only help those who want to be helped, and allow themselves to be helped. Try to help them but protect yourself first. Remember that your first promise is that you will choose what makes you happy and that you will protect yourself. There are things that neither you nor anyone else can do for them; they have to do on their own. There are things that they will only learn on their own time. So, develop compassion and acceptance. Love one another. Love your own self. Use your time wisely. Live your own life, not someone else’s. Keep yourself so busy with your own development that you have no time to criticize others.

7 – Remember that we are one. We are all connected in ways that are beyond our understanding. What we do to others, we do to ourselves. Do good. Yes, there are bad individuals out there manipulating and exploiting others, and they seem to be getting all the good things life has to offer. Don’t envy them. We reap what we sow, receive what we give, harvest what we plant. All the pain and suffering they inflict will inevitably come back to haunt them. Believe that all the good you give out will inevitably come back to bless you. Stick with the good. Do your best not to hurt anyone. Be careful about what you say and also how you say it. Mean words hurt a lot. Give of yourself to alleviate the pain and suffering of others.

8 – Don’t envy. Don’t be resentful or jealous that others have more than you. Believe in the abundance of the Universe and your birthright to prosper. Believe that you are a child of the Universe and that you deserve all the good the Universe has to offer. Rejoice with all that you have. Rejoice and bless others’ good fortune and believe there is plenty for all.

9 – Love everybody and believe that everybody loves you. Love, care and share. Give of yourself everyday to make someone else’s life a little better. Make a difference in someone else’s life. Be compassionate and patient. Help others. Smile. Make them feel good about themselves. Help the world. Do what you can to bring more justice, peace, unity and happiness to the world. Be kind, gentle and generous. Be respectful. Share your toys. And remember that it is by making others happy that you increase your own happiness.

10 – Apologize. As much as possible, repair what you may have broken. Acknowledge your errors, your faults, and don’t hesitate to say, “I’m sorry.” Make amends.

11 – Don’t allow other people’s negativity to take hold of you. Each one has his own problems. They have theirs and you have yours. Don’t make someone else’s problems yours. It’s their problem, not yours. You already have enough problems of your own.

12 – Don’ react instantly. Expand the gap between stimulus and response. Take control of your responses. Take three deep breaths before choosing your response. Even better… for no reason at all, just pause, take three deep breaths, and go back to the center of your being many times during the day.

13 – Work on completely removing complaints, regrets, and worries from your days. Don’t relive the drama and the trauma. Don’t store resentment. Stored resentment manifests itself as disease. Release the sad past. Stop telling your sad stories. Stop showing your wounds. Forgive everyone: others and yourself. Forgive and forget. Move on. Let go. And don’t worry about the future. Worrying is nothing more than using your imagination to create something you don’t want.  Discard all doubts. Don’t entertain negative thoughts. Fill your days with positive affirmations, and keep imagining a very successful, happy life where you are a blessing to all.

14 – Reduce the stress in your life. Stress leads to illness. Work everyday to make your life a little bit less stressful. Simplify. Don’t accumulate. Get rid of the stuff you don’t need.  Clean up and organize your space. Fix what is broken. Do at least a little bit of what you love everyday, but also tackle some of the unpleasant but necessary tasks everyday. Plan your work and work your plan everyday.

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15 – Be optimistic. Focus on what is right, good and positive, not on what is wrong, bad and negative. Choose uplifting thoughts. Say to yourself and proclaim to the world, “Life is good. Life is great. I love my life!” Cultivate hope. Believe that improvement is possible, that everything is getting better, and that the best is yet to come. Work on improving yourself, knowing that your improvement is your best contribution to the world. And remember that it doesn’t matter so much what you do as the love you put into the doing. Give your contribution, however small. Plant seeds even if you are not going to be here to enjoy the fruits; someone else will. Work within your circle of influence, however small, doing the things you are able to do, however small, and then see your impact and circle of influence expand.

16 – Express love. Practice giving and receiving love. Smile. Use every opportunity you have to tell people that you love them. Look for the best in others. Make others feel good about themselves. Never underestimate the power of a good word, a compliment, a smile. Find opportunities to praise them. Let them know that you notice and appreciate who they are and the good they do. Bring a smile to their faces. Help them be the best they can be. Support their growth. Help them bring out their best and bless the world with their unique gifts. Thank them often. And whenever possible, hug them. Hugs are miraculous. Hug, don’t hate.

17 – Your thoughts, words and deeds determine the quality of your life. Choose them wisely. Choose what you watch, what you read, and the people who you listen to and surround yourself with. Avoid the complainers and criticizers. Avoid the loud and aggressive ones. Choose love. Choose peace. Choose cooperation and collaboration.

18 – Your mind influences your body and your body influences your mind. Take good care of both. Practice mindfulness. Adopt a healthy lifestyle, with a good diet and physical exercise.  As I say, “Choose the good NuRSE: good Nutrition, Rest, Stretching and Exercise. If you remember this NuRSE, you may never need one.”

19 – Dream. Life is full of possibilities. You can do whatever you want. You can be whoever you want to be. If you are not living a life you love, start all over again. Focus on the posibilities, and don’t listen to the nay-sayers, especially the one inside your head. Imagination is a divine resource. Use it. Nurture it. Listen! What is calling you? Listen to your Higuest Self and go follow your bliss.

20 – Finally, realize that everything changes. Nothing is permanent. Nothing stays the same. Don’t fear death; it is inevitable. Sooner or later, it will come. Think of it as a transition. See life as a passage, during which you were given a body. Consider that there is no beginning and no end, and that nothing is destroyed or created; it just changes form. Be courageous to resist death, but also to accept it. Live a good life so when it is all said and done you may look back and smile with no regrets. You are an eternal spiritual being having a temporary human experience. You are not your physical body. You may say that you occupy your physical body. In fact, you have occupied many physical bodies since you were born, right? Where is the newborn you once were? In the divine realm there is no death. Our Bodies change but our divine essence does not. We are changeles. We are birthless and deathless. We have died already many times during our own existence. No need to fear physical death.

There you go… my happy life formula, revised and expanded. It works for me, and I am sure it will work for you too. Apply it deliberately and diligently and enjoy an excellent, happy life!

Blessings!

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A Bend in the Road

When we feel we have nothing left to give and we are sure that the song has ended,

When our day seems over and the shadows fall and the darkness of night has descended,

Where can we go to find the strength to valiantly keep on trying?

Where can we find the hand that will dry the tears that the heart is crying?

There’s but one place to go, and that is to God, and dropping all pretense and pride,

We can pour out our problems without restraint and gain strength with Him at our side.

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And together we stand at life’s crossroads and view what we think is the end,

But God has a much bigger vision,and He tells us it’s only a bend,

For the road goes on and is smoother, and the pause in the song is a rest,

And the part that’s unsung and unfinished is the sweetest and richest and best.

So rest and relax and grow stronger.

Let go and let God share your load.

Your work is not finished or ended.

You’ve just come to a bend in the road.

~ Helen Steiner Rice

Thoughts in Solitude

My Lord God, I have no idea where I am going.

I do not see the road ahead of me.

I cannot know for certain where it will end.

Nor do I really know myself, and the fact that I think I am following your will does not mean that I am actually doing so.

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But I believe that the desire to please you does in fact please you.

And I hope I have that desire in all that I am doing.

I hope that I will never do anything apart from that desire.

And I know that if I do this you will lead me by the right road, though I may know nothing about it.

Therefore I will trust you always though I may seem to be lost and in the shadow of death.

I will not fear, for you are ever with me, and you will never leave me to face my perils alone.

~ Thomas Merton, in Thoughts in Solitude

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Generosity

The best exercise for the heart is to lift someone up.

Given the opportunity to help, why would someone choose not to? Why would one choose not to lend a helping hand? Why would people choose not to do simple things within their power to help others get ahead in life and live their dreams?

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Sometimes it can demand a lot, but the majority of times helping others is easy. All it takes is the willingness to exercise a little compassion, and make the decision to pause, listen, empathize and help.

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I have chosen to be generous. I came to realize that by giving of myself and helping others I spread happiness. And the bonus for me is that by making others happy, I feel happy. I have realized that when I give I receive back, and each time I do this the entire world gets a little bit better.

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Each one of us can choose to be generous. We can all choose to be kind. Someday, we will all realize that the greatest strength in the world emanates from kindness and generosity. Someday, we will all understand that we are here not only to give the gifts that we are suposed to give, but also to help others give the gifts that they are supposed to give. Someday we will become aware that we are in a learning campus called Earth, enrolled in a course called Life, and that we graduate the moment we overcome self-centeredness and defeat selfishness.

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So, go get your degree… Practice kindness and generosity. That’s all it takes.

You cannot give what you do not have. In order to spread happiness you have to be happy, and making others happy is what will make you happy.

Make the top priority in your life to make yourself happy by helping others and making them happy.

Be kind! Be generous! Be happy!

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A Father’s Advice

This passage impacted my life in a powerful way. I go back to it quite often. I share it in my speaking engagements, whenever I have a chance.

It speaks to me. It inspires me. It liberates me.

It reminds me to see life as an adventure full of possibilities and new beginnings. It reminds me to let go of lives that have played themselves out, and do not serve me anymore. It reminds me that if things are not working out, I should accept reality, and find the strength and courage to let go and start all over again. It reminds me to embrace the adventure. It reminds me to travel light through life. It reminds me that life is a time to explore, be inspired, inspire, help others, have fun, and make the best of it. It reminds me that the power to live the life I want to live is within me.

Finally, it reminds me of how much I love my sons, of how much I want to be a good father, of how much I want to be a good example for them, and of how much I want to be blessed with wisdom so I may be able to give them the right advice at the right time.

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It’s never too late to be whoever you want to be.

There’s no time limit.

Start whenever you want.

You can change, or stay the same.

There are no rules to this thing.

We can make the best or the worst of it, and I hope you make the best of it.

I hope you see things that startle you.

I hope you feel things you never felt before.

I hope you meet people with a different point of view.

I hope you live a life you’re proud of, and if you find that you’re not, I hope you have the strength to start all over again.

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The Curious Case of Benjamin Button

I got these words from the movie The Curious Case of Benjamin Button, based on a short story by F. Scott Fitzgerald. The screenplay was crafted by Eric Roth. They deserve all the credit.

Namaste. ~ Piero

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Desiderata

Go placidly amidst the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons.

Speak your truth quietly and clearly, and listen to others, even the dull and the ignorant; they too have their story.

Avoid loud and aggressive persons; they are vexatious to the spirit. If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.

Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.

Exercise caution in your business affairs, for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals, and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself. Especially, do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love, for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth.

Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune, but do not distress yourself with dark imaginings; many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.

Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here.

And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should. Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be.

And whatever your labors and aspirations in the noisy confusion of life, keep peace with your soul.

With all its shams, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world.

Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.

~ Max Ehrmann

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The Optimist Creed

Promise yourself

To be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind

To talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person you meet

To make all your friends feel that there is something worthwhile in them

To look at the sunny side of everything and make your optimism come true

To think only of the best, to work only for the best and to expect only the best

To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are.about your own

To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future

To wear a cheerful expression at all times and give a smile to every living creature you meet

To give so much time to improving yourself that you have no time to criticize others

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To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble

To think well of yourself and to proclaim this fact to the world, not in loud word, but in great deeds

To live in the faith that the whole world is on your side, so long as you are true to the best that is in you

~ Christian D. Larson

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I Am

I was regretting the past
and fearing the future.
Suddenly God was speaking:
“My name is I Am.”
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I waited and God continued:
“When you live in the past,
with its mistakes and regrets,
it is hard.
I am not there.
My name is not I Was.”
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“When you live in the future,
with its problems and fears,
it is hard.
I am not there.
My name is not I Will Be.”
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“When you live in this moment,
it is not hard.
I am here.
My name is I Am.”
~ Helen Mellincost

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Heaven on Earth

But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.

Seek Heaven? What does this mean?

What if, instead of hoping to get to Heaven in the future, we lived our lives as if we were in Heaven already?

What if we lived with the understanding that we are the ones who create Heaven?

What if we lived with the conviction that not only we are in Heaven, but that we have the power and responsibility to make it even better?

What if we came to the conclusion that we are the ones who bring Heaven to Earth?

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Live as if you are in Heaven. Bring Heaven to Earth.

How?

It’s easy.

Let’s live our lives doing what is right, giving thanks, being happy and spreading happiness. Let’s live our days loving and accepting love. Let’s practice kindness, patience and generosity, and help our fellow man. Let’s do the best we can today, and everyday. Let’s be optimistic and not worry about tomorrow. And let us realize that in doing so we will have everything we need, and more.

We were told to hope for the day when we will get to Heaven. What if we were told that we are in Heaven already? What if we really grasped the concept that Heaven is not an ideal place that we may get to in the future, but a way of being, a state of spirit? What if we understood that this state of bliss can be experienced everyday by choosing the right thoughts, words and actions?

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Do you want to go to Heaven? Listen up. The best way to get to Heaven is to live as if you are in Heaven already. Embrace this idea.

Give thanks.

Spread love.

Accept love.

Be kind.

Be generous.

Be honest.

Be helpful.

Be optimistic.

Be happy and make others happy.

By doing so, not only you will be in Heaven, but you will be bringing more of Heaven to Earth.

Live as if you are in Heaven, and reveal Heaven.

Once, on being asked by the Pharisees when the kingdom of God would come, Jesus replied, “The coming of the kingdom of God is not something that can be observed, nor will people say, ‘Here it is,’ or ‘There it is,’ because the kingdom of God is in your midst.”

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My Happy Life Formula

I am convinced that happiness is independent from one’s life situations and conditions. Happiness depends on a positive attitude, and it can be achieved through daily practice.

I have decided to be happy, so everyday I enhance my positive outlook by practicing what I know makes me happy.

So, here’s my recipe for a happy life:

  1. Express love everyday.
  2. Appreciate what you have and give thanks everyday.
  3. See life as an adventure full of possibilities, and practice optimism everyday.
  4. Take action to improve your life everyday.
  5. Take care of your health everyday.
  6. Give of yourself everyday.

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In other words, here some practical things anyone can do:

  1. Practice to express your love. Send a message to someone you love.
  2. Practice gratitude. Think of what you are grateful for.
  3. Practice optimism. List possibilities, things that would make you happy, and experience the joy of imagining them a reality.
  4. Practice to take action. Take time, everyday, to do things that you love. Also, take time, everyday, to do things that you know you must do to improve the quality of your life, even without wanting to do them.
  5. Commit to a healthy lifestyle. Remember NuRSE – Nutrition, Rest, Stretching, Exercise. If you remember this NuRSE, you may never need one.
  6. Do something to make the world better. Give some of your time, treasure, talent and touch to help others.

Remember: happiness is independent from one’s life situations and conditions. Happiness depends on a positive mindset, a generous, giving heart, a commitment to take action and live a healthy lifestyle, and the daily practice of love, gratitude, and optimism.

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Take Action

I came across this beautiful reflection by William Arthur Ward the other night. My friend David read it before showing pictures of his walking pilgrimage on the Camino de Santiago. Ward’s words contain a call to risk-taking, and it takes some of that to do what David did: leaving the known behind and facing the unknown; leaving the comfort and embracing the discomfort. But those who do just that have a richer experience. They embark in the hero’s journey, defeat the dragon, are transformed, and then come back to share their stories and inspire others to take risks and experience transformation themselves.

Here are Ward’s words…

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To laugh is to risk appearing a fool. To weep is to risk appearing sentimental. To reach out to another is to risk involvement. To expose feelings is to risk exposing your true self. To place your ideas and dreams before a crowd is to risk their loss. To love is to risk not being loved in return. To live is to risk dying. To hope is to risk despair. To try is to risk failure.

But risks must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing. The person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing, is nothing. He may avoid suffering and sorrow, but he cannot learn, feel, change, grow or live. Chained by his servitude he is a slave who has forfeited all freedom. Only a person who risks is free.

The pessimist complains about the wind. The optimist expects it to change. And the realist adjusts the sails.

~ William Arthur Ward

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