I Will Not Be Afraid, No Matter What

Do you know those times when you hear things that you know you needed to hear? Well, it happened again this morning.

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We were at the beach, watching the sunrise and sharing some of the lessons we’ve learned in life, when Nancy said something that struck me: “The time came when I decided that I would not get stressed anymore, no matter what.”

I looked at her with astonishment. How can someone make such a decision? Isn’t stress something beyond our control? But I instantly realized that she was dead serious. What she was saying was not some superficial nonsense, but a deep commitment, and I could tell it by the tone of her voice. She really meant it. Hers was a decision of departure without the slightest chance of return.

That was a remarkable moment for me. I immediately heard my inner voice commanding, “Pay attention, Piero. Open your ears. There is an important message here for you.”

She told me that at a certain point in her life, after a series of tragic, painful events, she decided that she was not going to allow anything to stress her anymore. She had to do it, she told me, for her own sanity, to protect herself.

She, then, told me of difficult times she went through and how, by reminding herself of the promise she had made — “I will not get stressed, no matter what” — she was able, every time, to choose a better response. And what a difference this decision and practice made on the quality of her life!

I am blessed to have many awesome teachers in my life. Nancy is one of them, and she is fantastic.

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She went through so much in her life! She could have chosen to be bitter, but she is one of the most positive individuals I have ever met. She always looks for the best in everything. She practices gratitude, constantly acknowledging what she has been blessed with. I admire her immensely, especially because she is this amazing human being by choice, her own. She is a living example that being in control of the quality of one’s own life, by choosing the right thoughts and responses, is perfectly possible. She is a powerful role model, and she is my teacher. How fortunate I am!

So, allow me share with you the mighty lesson I learned from Nancy this morning. Maybe it can be useful to you too.

Today, I solemnly promise myself that …

I will not get stressed, no matter what.

I will not get depressed, no matter what.

I will not be afraid, no matter what.

I will not worry, no matter what.

I will always be grateful, no matter what.

… and by remembering these promises during the tough moments, I will be able to choose the best responses, the ones that will make my life, and the lives of those around me, better.

Amen!

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Transition

“Death is not an ending, but a symbol of movement along the path upon which we are all traveling. As it may be painful to lose contact with the physical aspect of one we love, the Spirit can never be lost. We have been and always will be a part of each other.” ~ John Denver

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No Whining, No Worries, No Regrets

What kind of life is this? Complaining about the past, being grumpy about the present, and pessimistic about the future? This certainly is a miserable life; definitely not the kind of life I want to live.

Life is too short.

Yes, I’ve made mistakes, but who hasn’t? Yes, I’ve lost some opportunities and made some bad choices, but isn’t all that part of the human experience? Isn’t that the way we learn? And aren’t we here to learn? We may look back and think we haven’t made the best choices, but every choice we made moved us to a new experience, and allowed us to learn something new.

Life is too short for regrets.

I agree that we should not forget the past. Actually, we cannot forget the past, but instead of constantly revisiting our misfortunes and moaning about them, we should redirect the spotlight to illuminate all the good times we had, all the good things we have, while entertaining visions of all the fantastic times that lie ahead of us.

Life is too short for whining.

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We should not allow our minds to be our worst enemies. If we keep rehashing the bad things of the past, bad mood settles in and immobilizes us. If we keep criticizing others and complaining about the present situation, we get discouraged and less capable of improving it. If we look at the future with fear and hopelessness, we drown in anxiety, lose sleep, and worry ourselves crazy. What good unrestrained worries can produce? Nothing good for sure. Worrying is nothing more than using our imagination to create something we don’t want.

Life is too short for worries.

When I think about all the good I have done, all the lives that I have touched in a positive way, and all that I have accomplished in my lifetime, I feel successful. When I think about all that I have, I feel wealthy. When I imagine future possibilities with optimism, I become enthusiastic about life. And this, in a nutshell, is what helps create a better life: to be grateful and optimistic.

I believe that the sanest way of living, the one that produces the most peace, is living as much as possible focusing on the present moment, the task at hand, and the person who happens to be in front of us at any given time. I believe we should focus on the positive, be optimistic, and give thanks all the time.

So here’s the formula for a good life: no whining, no worries, no criticism, and no regrets. Live in the present enjoying the presents, being grateful and optimistic.

“Life is good! Life is great! I love my life, and I love my wife!”

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Exitlude

Life is fragile. We are here one moment, but there are no assurances we are going to be here the next. No one knows for sure when one’s life will be over. Sometimes life is cut short suddenly and senselessly, and that’s why we need to live every moment to the fullest, without allowing worries to spoil our existence.

Life is too short for worries.

We must focus on the beauty of the present moment and the beautiful possibilities that lie ahead, believing that the best is yet to come.

“Exitlude”

Aggressively, we all defend the role we play

Regrettably, time’s come to send you on your way

We’ve seen it all: bonfires of trust, flash floods of pain

It doesn’t really matter

Don’t you worry, it’ll all work out

No, it doesn’t even matter

Don’t you worry, that ain’t what it’s all about

We hope you enjoyed your stay

It’s good to have you with us, even if it’s just for the day

We hope you enjoyed your stay

Outside the sun is shining, seems like heaven ain’t far away

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It’s good to have you with us, even if it’s just for the day

Outside the sun is shining, seems like heaven ain’t far away

Songwriters: The Killers

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Peace I Am

“Peace is not something you wish for. It’s something you make, something you do, something you are, and something you give away.” ~ Robert Fulghum

No one can give what they don’t have. In order to give peace away, one must have peace.

I desire peace, and I want to spread it throughout the world. Therefore, I do what I can to cultivate peace.

How?

I practice peace. I practice to stay in touch with the peace that resides within me, so I may be able to respond peacefully to the challenges that come my way. By doing so, I grow in peace, and I become able to give it to the world.

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Peace in our hearts brings peace to our families
Peace in our families brings peace to our communities
Peace in our communities brings peace to our nations
Peace in our nations brings peace to the world
Let there be peace on Earth, and let it begin with me

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Imagine A Whole New World

Imagine a complete change in mankind’s mindset.

Imagine every baby coming into this planet being greeted in the delivery room with these words: “Welcome! You made it! You are in Heaven! This is your garden and your playground. Take good care of both: make the garden more beautiful and the playground more enjoyable, and go have lots of fun with everything and everyone in this planet!”

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Imagine we also receive this message at birth: “Welcome! You made it! You are in Heaven! Don’t worry. This is a place of abundance. There is more than enough for everyone. You don’t have to be afraid. You don’t have to accumulate. Just take good care of the garden and the playground, help one another, share your toys, and go have lots of fun with your friends.”

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Imagine these messages becoming the truth we all live by.

Imagine how the idea that this is Heaven — that we are in Heaven already — could change everything.

Imagine how a slight change in mankind’s mindset could create a whole new world.

Imagine a whole new world.

Imagine.

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Don’t Worry

This is attributed to a very wise man who lived two thousand years ago. He was a great teacher who gave insightful advice on how to live a good life. What follows is one of his lessons. Simply put, he told us, “Don’t worry.” Here’s what he said (in my own words):

Don’t store up treasures here on earth, where moths eat them and rust destroys them, and where thieves break in and steal. Store your treasures in heaven, where moths and rust cannot destroy, and thieves cannot break in and steal. Wherever your treasure is, there the desires of your heart — and your worries — will also be.

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Do not worry if you will have enough food and drink, or enough clothes to wear. Isn’t life more than food, and your body more than clothing? Look at the birds. They don’t plant or harvest or store food in barns; still, your heavenly Father always feeds them. And why worry about your clothing? Look at the flowers in the field and how they grow. They don’t work or make their clothing, yet no man, not even the most powerful one, ever dressed as beautifully as them. And if God cares so much for wildflowers that are here today and will be thrown into the fire tomorrow, he will certainly care for you.

Think about it… Why worry? Can all your worries add a single moment to your life?

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So don’t worry about these things, saying, ‘What will I eat? What will I drink? What will I wear?’ These things dominate the thoughts of those who are afraid. Calmly believe that your heavenly Father already knows all your needs and that you will receive what you need and is best for you in abundance. Seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for each day has enough trouble of its own.

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By the way, in case you are guessing who taught this lesson, his name was Jesus.

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Arrivals and Departures

Life is marked by arrivals and departures, births and deaths. It is a puzzling and yet beautiful journey.

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Sometimes, I imagine the entire world as a giant and extremely busy train station, with people arriving and departing all the time.

For the most part, joy with the arrivals and sadness with the departures of their loved ones are the feelings of those who are not traveling. But those who are embarking on new adventures experience excitement, joy, and a renewed energy to tackle whatever the upcoming journeys may have reserved for them.

Farewells in airports. The endings of romantic relationships. I felt sad when loved ones left. I felt depressed when stages of my life came to an end, and I had to let go of lives that had played themselves out and did not serve me anymore. I felt melancholy and despair witnessing physical death of people I knew, and also of people I didn’t. I empathized with other people’s grief and shed tears with them. But with all that I also came to realize that endings are just new beginnings in disguise.

We are constantly losing and regaining balance: this is the natural motion of life. We are always departing and coming back.  We are always returning to the Source. We came from nowhere and we are now-here, on our way back to nowhere.

Many times I have entertained the idea that ultimate reason for living is to go through experiences that allow us to learn how to properly die. I have decided that I will prepare myself to embrace death, my own, as an exciting departure, one that celebrates the beginning of a new and beautiful adventure.

I am happy with the life that was given to me. I feel blessed for all the love I have received and the love I was able to give. Yes, my life, like all lives, had its difficult moments and tragedies, but I guess we all want to stick around for as long as we can because we love love; we love to love and to be loved.

Arrivals and departures, births and deaths, beginnings and ends are ways Wisdom uses to remind us of the inexorable transformation and the impermanence of all. It is also a way of reminding us that, in the end, it’s all about love: the love we make, the love we leave, and the love we take.

Love!

“This body is not me. I am not limited by this body. I am life without boundaries. I have never been born, and I have never died.” ~ Thich Nhat Hanh

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That’s What We Do

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Dear son.

If you bring forth what is within you, what you bring forth will save you. But if you do not bring forth what is within you, what you do not bring forth will destroy you.

Don’t ask what the world needs; ask what makes you come alive, and go do it, because what the world needs is people who have come alive.

Follow your passions, follow your dreams, and continue to spread happiness!

We know you are ready for the real revolution, the evolution of the mind. You know we all come from the Divine.

We love you. And we promise you this; we’ll always look out for you because that’s what we do.

We’ll be the wall that protects you from the wind and the rain, from the hurt and pain, forever!

Whatever you want, you can have.

Whatever you dream, you can achieve.

You can do it.

Just do it!

Victory!

Mamis e Papis (with a little help from Jesus, Howard Thurman, Public Enemy, Coldplay, Bryan Adams and Johnny Drama)