Leaving A Better World For Our Children

“…o mundo que nós vamos deixar para os nossos filhos depende muito do tipo de filho que nós vamos deixar para o mundo…” ~ Mário Sérgio Cortella

“… the world we will leave for our children depends a lot upon the type of children we will leave for the world…” ~ Mário Sérgio Cortella

The one thing we can do to leave a better world for our children is to leave better children for the world.

I’ve done my part. Mine are much better than me. They are kind, compassionate and generous. Mission accomplished.

I can, now, sit back, relax, and savor success.

Life is good!

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My Son, My Guide, My Teacher

It was late night, and the bustling daytime activity had vanished; visitors were long gone, and most of the patients and their companions were sleeping… but I couldn’t. So I kissed my wife — lovingly, gently, and carefully to not disturb her sleep — and left the room in silence.

I remember how quiet and dim the corridors were; “They must turn down the lights at night,” I pondered.

“That one,” I said, even though I knew she could not hear me. “That one,” I said again, pointing at the newborn in the little crib whose sign bore my last name. The nurse smiled, picked him up, gently nestled him in her arms, got closer to the glass, and allowed me to take a lengthy look at him… and that was it! That was the moment when my life changed forever!

Yes, I had been in middle of all the excitement in the delivery room a few hours before. Yes, I held him in my arms minutes after he was born. But that moment, in the quiet of the night, when I took that long look at him, that was the moment when the entire Universe slowed down, everything around me became a blur, and time stood still. Something mysterious and magical was happening. I didn’t know then, and I only came to realize years later that who I was looking at, just then, was the greatest guide and teacher I would have in my life. And even though I was completely unaware of my role as a neophyte explorer, he immediately took me to unexplored territories… And although I was utterly oblivious of my role as his student, he, at once, exposed me to fundamental questions. I looked at him and asked myself, “Who am I? What is this thing we call life? Who creates it? How does it come about? How can I, this simple man, be a part in something so miraculous, inexplicable, and extraordinary?”

And the Voice of the Universe spoke through him: “There’s something bigger going on here; something that you don’t quite understand. You must pay attention and be alert.” And I heard a whisper, “It’s time to let go of the old. It’s time to embrace the new.”

In that moment I was transformed for ever, never to be the same again.

During the years that followed, my son guided me to take a deep look at my life and change my ways. He patiently endured the pain I made him go through while I was learning. And no matter how many mistakes I made, he always reaffirmed his unconditional love for me. He taught me what real, innocent love was. He believed in me more than I did myself. He believed that the good in me would prevail. He, more than anyone else, made me a better man.

I look back and I think, “How fortunate I am! How blessed I am to have him in my life! What a vast joy it is for me to have him by my side during my journey here on Earth!”

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What Makes You Come Alive

It was a strange call, one that I will never forget.

“Dad, you never tried to steer me in any direction,” he said.

“I am not sure I understand,” I replied. “What are you trying to say? What do you mean?”

“You never tried to influence me to follow any specific career. I told you I wanted to be a filmmaker and you never said anything against it; you never tried to change my mind.”

“Hum,” I mumbled in puzzlement, trying to make sense of what I was hearing. “Have I done something wrong?” I asked.

“Well, you see… my friends here in college… their parents… they all push them to go to the Law, Business, or Medical School, but you, you never told me to do any of that.”

“Yes, that’s true,” I said.

“Are you really OK that I want to be a filmmaker?” he asked, with some hesitation in his voice, almost begging for reassurance.

I felt it was time to make things clear… “Son, listen to me… I am here to help you pursue your dreams. That’s my role. Period. It doesn’t matter to me what you do, as long as you are doing what makes you happy, and you’re not hurting yourself or anyone else on the journey. All I want is for you to be happy. 

You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do to get my approval. You don’t have to prove anything to me. I know you well. I know who you are, and I am enormously proud of you and your achievements. You and your brother are fantastic human beings, much better than I am, and I admire both of you immensely. 

Listen to me: life is too short. I’m going to say it again: life is too short. I don’t want you, some decades from now, to look back at your life and regret not having responded to your inner calling. I just want you to follow your bliss, and have fun doing what excites you and what you are good at, because if you do just that, everything will be fine. Do what you love, and do it the best you can. 

Everyone is different, and everyone has unique contributions to give to the world. You don’t have to follow anyone else’s footsteps; you must create your own path. By doing what you love and what you do best, you will be successful.

My only request is for you to continue to be who you already are: a compassionate man who brings happiness to others, and who uses his talents and skills to make the world a better place. Ask yourself, ‘How can I serve?” Continue to love, care, and share the way you do. That’s it. That’s all. 

Be happy! To see you happy is what makes me happy, and is what will make a lot of people happy as well. Happy people bring happiness to the world. Have fun, enjoy life, help others, and know that that you are loved.

I will always love you.”

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“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive and go do it, because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” ~ Howard Thurman

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I Have Everything To Be Thankful For

The call came and he told me, “Dad, I’m sorry, but we will not be able to spend too much time together this Thanksgiving. As you know, everybody is leaving, going back home, and since there will not be too many of us around, I will also have to do the night shifts. I’ll have to sleep in the shelter.” My son was referring to the Harvard Square Homeless Shelter (*), the only entirely student-run shelter in the country and the only shelter in the Boston area operated entirely by volunteers.

“That’s OK, Mateus,” I told him. “We already knew that you were going to be busy. Don’t worry. Let me ask you: Can we help?”

“Well, let me see if I can fit you in the volunteer schedule. I’ll let you know.”

“Great! This will make us very happy!”

And so it was… The best Thanksgiving of our lives was spent volunteering for five days at a homeless shelter. We enjoyed our time, not only with Mateus, but also with other generous young adults who were giving of themselves for those in need.

Pamela and Mateus on the line of duty, serving meals.

We sat down, shared meals, and had great conversations with the guests. And it was a special treat to see my youngest son in action, coordinating volunteers, talking to the guests, solving problems, and making sure everything ran smoothly, besides giving me marching orders to wash the dishes, clean the floors, and dispose the waste. It was such a revelation! I saw a man in action, a good man for that matter, while, in the back of my head I kept asking myself, “Where’s my boy? Where did my little one go?”

Happy in the kitchen!

Yes, I am proud, but more than that, I am grateful. My boys are so much better than I am. I have every reason to be thankful for.

Pedro and Mateus… It’s good to be a father!

Life is good. I give thanks. I’m happy.

“In daily life we must see that it is not happiness that makes us grateful, but gratefulness that makes us happy.” ~ Brother David Steindl-Rast

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(*) Every winter since 1983, the Harvard Square Homeless Shelter, staffed and directed by students at Harvard University, has provided food, housing, and a friendly, supportive environment for two dozen men and women each night during the five coldest months of the year. It is open from 7:00 P.M. to 8:00 A.M., November 15 to April 15. It offers: • Twenty-four beds each night for men and women; • Dinner and breakfast for guests, plus dinners for anyone who comes to the door needing food; • An alcohol-free, drug-free, and smoke-free environment; • Laundry and shower facilities; • Use of computer and printer. Check these two sites: http://www.hshsc.org/  & http://www.hcs.harvard.edu/~hshs/ and this 2011 article http://www.thecrimson.com/article/2011/11/28/thanksgiving-students-harvard-homeless/

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Happiness

Do you want to be happy? OK, here’s the formula, and it’s quite simple.

There are three things that you must do to achieve happiness:

First, be grateful.

Second, be grateful.

Third, be grateful.

By doing so, suddenly, you will experience happiness. And then, you will be grateful because you are happy. And then, you will realize that you are happy because you are grateful.

It is by practicing gratefulness that we achieve happiness. Or, as my friend, Brother David Steindl-Rast puts it, “In daily life we must see that it is not happiness that makes us grateful, but gratefulness that makes us happy.”

So, if you want to be happy, the first thing you have to do is to give thanks. The second thing is to give thanks. And the third thing is to give thanks.

Try it.

You’ll be amazed how well it works!

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Giving and Receiving

Songs are powerful tools to communicate ideas, and I give credit to Paul, Sir Paul McCartney, who wrote a phrase that has touched millions… “And in the end, the love you take, is equal to the love you make.” (*) Such a simple and, at the same time, profound truth. I believe in it. Actually, I believe that you always get much more than you give.

To that respect, Jesus said, two thousand years ago, “Give, and you will receive. Your gift will return to you in full–pressed down, shaken together to make room for more, running over, and poured into your lap. The amount you give will determine the amount you get back.” Yes; the amount of love you’ll  take will be determined by the amount of love you’ve made.

Everybody wants to be loved.  Everybody longs for love… but how do we get it? Well, the recipe is quite simple, and you may say, even counter-intuitive: if you want to be loved, love. If you want to get love, give it, because it is by giving that you will receive.

Mother Teresa encouraged us to give, give, give, and continue giving… until it hurts.

Yes, what goes around, comes around. The Circle of Life. Cause and effect. Action and consequences. Do good, and good will flow back to you. I believe this. And if you do bad, bad will come back to haunt you. I believe this, too. And, yes, if you are wondering, we are still talking about Karma. We reap what we sow. It is by planting seeds of love, and lovingly tending the plants as they grow, that we will enjoy fruits of love.

Pay it forward. Whatever good I may have done for you, do it for someone else. You don’t need to pay me, but make sure to be good with whoever needs your generosity, kindness, patience, love and forgiveness, which, by the way, is everyone you meet. If you have hurt someone in the past, heal the wounds of the person who is in front of you now. Give of yourself to whomever may be with you at any given time.

Smile. Praise. Love. Care. Share. Be kind. Be generous. Be patient. Be compassionate. Be forgiving.

Give, give, give, and continue giving, until it hurts! And, suddenly, it will stop hurting, and will become pure joy: the joy of giving and receiving.

(*) Check out the song The End in the album Abbey Road.

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The Law of Karma

Everything we think, say, and do has consequences. Some are good, some are bad. Some are positive, some negative. Some bring peace, others bring unrest. That is why it is so important to take time between stimuli and responses, between impulse and action. It’s important to pause and think before saying or doing anything. It is important to analyze our thoughts and moods, and evaluate if we are reacting without measuring possible consequences, or if we are responding after a thorough consideration of the possible outcomes. It is important to figure out what motivates our speaking and acting. Is it coming from the ego? Is the ego feeling threatened? Does the ego wants to use this opportunity to aggrandize itself? Some of the great rules to remember are:

1 – Before speaking, ask yourself, “Is t true? Is it necessary? Is it kind?” If the answer is no, refrain from speaking.

2 – Before doing anything, remember that the most important thing is to do no harm. Ask yourself, “Will my chosen words and actions harm someone?” If so, choose another course of action.

The practice of mindfulness helps us because it makes of us the masters of the space and time between stimulus and response. It enhances that space and time. It trains us to be less reactive, and more capable of choosing the best responses.

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Deepak Chopra describes the Law of Karma or Cause and Effect with these words: Every action generates a force of energy that returns to us in like kind . . . what we sow is what we reap. And when we choose actions that bring happiness and success to others, the fruit of our karma is happiness and success.

On the other hand, when you choose thoughts, words and deeds that bring unhappiness to others, the fruit of your karma is unhappiness.

What goes around, comes around… and if you are not paying attention, it’s gonna hit you in the head!

Every choice has consequences, so choose wisely.

At any moment, you have a choice, that either leads you closer to your spirit or further away from it. ~ Thich Nhat Hanh – Buddhist Monk, Author, Poet and Peace Activist

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The Last House

He built houses. That’s what he did. And what an accomplished craftsman he was! Building was his passion. His houses were, simply put, the best. For him, every detail was important, everything had to be perfect, everything deserved his best effort. But after years of building the most admired houses in the region, he grew tired of it.

One day, he approached the owner of the company he had been working for all his life, and told him that he didn’t want to do it anymore. His boss tried to change his mind, but wasn’t able to. All his employer was able to do was to convince him to build just one more house, the last one.

And so he went… but the passion wasn’t there anymore; he didn’t take the time to select the best materials, or to finish everything to perfection. He just wanted to get it over with. In the end, this house didn’t look anything like the ones he had built before.

Once he finished, he came to his boss to give him the keys of the house he had just built, and he was shocked when he heard, “No, don’t give me the keys; you keep them. This is my way of thanking you for everything you’ve done for me. This is your house now. Enjoy it!”

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The Law of Karma

Watch out! Everything you do comes back to you. Your thoughts, words, and deeds will come back to either reward or punish you.

Always give your best. Pursue excellence at all times. You never know who is watching you.

Every job is important. There are no ordinary jobs, only uninspired people doing them in ordinary ways.

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